It is said that emotions show weakness and hence should not be shown. They should be bottled up inside because the world is full of treacherous people just waiting to pounce and take advantage of that one moment of weakness. But is that really the case?
Of course, hiding emotions is a good thing at times, because it helps one keep some cards at hand. But showing no emotion at all can lead people to think you don't have any; that you're not humane.
In my case, i do share at times, with my best friends, IM and DK and sometimes SS. But not everything, There are things that i'd like to keep to myself; but then there are things that need to be shared to keep the mind clear and heart light.
Bottling up of emotions can do funny things to people. It can lead to people denying things rampantly until they themselves believe it to be true. Take an example.
Two exes named Carmen and Vance. Vance dumped Carmen because he was jealous that she had so many male friends and therefore, his insecurity led him to drop her. Carmen is obviously heartbroken, but then moves on after being convinced by her friends as to what a douche he really is. However, Vance can't get over Carmen and starts being an absolute moron towards her in order to try and get over her. So then, he's not only fooling himself into this, he's effectively destroying Carmen because he couldn't be a little more open about his insecurities and now he's just plain jealous. Plus, he knows he's lost his chance and is not being able to face to fact that things might really be over.
Did this whole fiasco really help anyone? With one person shutting down, he not only ruined his chances but also caused great distress to the other. That really was never the point.
Of course, hiding emotions is a good thing at times, because it helps one keep some cards at hand. But showing no emotion at all can lead people to think you don't have any; that you're not humane.
In my case, i do share at times, with my best friends, IM and DK and sometimes SS. But not everything, There are things that i'd like to keep to myself; but then there are things that need to be shared to keep the mind clear and heart light.
Bottling up of emotions can do funny things to people. It can lead to people denying things rampantly until they themselves believe it to be true. Take an example.
Two exes named Carmen and Vance. Vance dumped Carmen because he was jealous that she had so many male friends and therefore, his insecurity led him to drop her. Carmen is obviously heartbroken, but then moves on after being convinced by her friends as to what a douche he really is. However, Vance can't get over Carmen and starts being an absolute moron towards her in order to try and get over her. So then, he's not only fooling himself into this, he's effectively destroying Carmen because he couldn't be a little more open about his insecurities and now he's just plain jealous. Plus, he knows he's lost his chance and is not being able to face to fact that things might really be over.
Did this whole fiasco really help anyone? With one person shutting down, he not only ruined his chances but also caused great distress to the other. That really was never the point.
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